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6 ways to increase your self-esteem and feel better about yourself

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February 2, 2026
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6 ways to increase your self-esteem and feel better about yourself 

Have you ever said something to yourself like 鈥淚 can鈥檛 do anything right鈥 or 鈥淲hy would anyone want to hang out with me?鈥

If so, you鈥檙e not alone. We all have times in our lives when our self-esteem is low. This could be the result of a perceived failure, comparing yourself to others, or other challenges that impact how you see yourself.

However, frequently experiencing low self-esteem can take a toll on your well-being. So if you have trouble seeing yourself in a positive light, know that there are things you can do to reconnect to your strengths and increase your self-worth. In this article, shares six things that can help boost your self-confidence.

Key Takeaways

  • Self-esteem includes the beliefs you hold about yourself and how you view yourself in comparison to others.
  • Everyone has episodes of low self-esteem sometimes. But if these episodes are impacting your mental health and your ability to live your life, talking to a therapist can help.
  • In addition to receiving professional support, there are some simple things you can do to improve your self-esteem. These include increasing awareness of your negative thoughts, journaling about your strengths, and surrounding yourself with supportive people.

What is self-esteem?

鈥溾 refers to how we view ourselves and our inherent value.

Having a healthy level of self-esteem doesn鈥檛 mean being conceited or having a big ego. It doesn鈥檛 mean you can鈥檛 acknowledge mistakes or things you might want to change about yourself. Rather, it鈥檚 that little voice inside your mind that tells you how you view yourself and your place in the world. Sometimes, that voice can be critical.

People who have can acknowledge their strengths and their shortcomings. Your in a variety of ways because it can determine whether or not you:

  • Believe you鈥檙e worthy of love
  • Can recognize your value as a human being
  • Prioritize taking care of yourself
  • See your contributions as 鈥済ood enough鈥
  • Can make decisions that reflect your worth
  • Can show yourself patience and kindness in difficult times
  • Feel capable of doing new or challenging things
  • Forgive yourself when you make mistakes

Six effective methods to improve self-esteem

Low self-esteem can take a toll on your mental health. Fortunately, there are to boost your confidence and challenge the negative beliefs you hold about yourself.

  1. Notice when you鈥檙e having negative thoughts about yourself. Do they tend to happen in certain circumstances or around specific people? The first step in challenging these thoughts is gaining awareness around when and where they typically arise.
  2. When faced with a negative belief about yourself, look for evidence to see if it鈥檚 really true. For example, if you think 鈥淚 know I鈥檓 going to fail this test like all the others,鈥 ask yourself if you鈥檝e really failed every test you鈥檝e ever taken. This can help you stay grounded in your actual experience.
  3. Recognize what you鈥檙e good at and write those things down. This will help you get into the habit of noticing your strengths, even the small ones. Then, when your self-esteem takes a dip, to remind yourself of all the good things about you.
  4. Surround yourself with supportive people. It鈥檚 okay to avoid people who do or say things that make you feel bad about yourself. Pay attention to how you feel in different people鈥檚 company, and prioritize the relationships that help you feel energized and uplifted.
  5. Practice . People with low self-esteem may feel like they can鈥檛 stand up for themselves or simply say 鈥渘o.鈥 So look for ways to practice assertive communication and honor your self-worth.
  6. Be patient with yourself. Know that improving your self-esteem may take some time. Throughout the process, set small but achievable goals, notice your progress, and practice self-compassion. 

What causes low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem can stem from a variety of causes, depending on the person. But often, people who have have experienced:

  • A mental health condition (like or )
  • A medical condition (like a physical disability, a condition that causes chronic pain, or another serious illness)
  • Abusive relationships with a or a
  • events or ongoing stressors (like job loss or financial difficulties)
  • Trouble with academic performance or difficulty with job performance as an adult
  • Being brought up in a home where parents were overly critical

Social media may also play in shaping modern-day self-esteem. While is complex, some shows that it can negatively affect your self-esteem. Although social media can provide a boost of self-confidence at times, it may also lead you to in ways that leave you feeling inadequate.

Keep in mind that what you see on social media is usually far from a person鈥檚 full reality. Most of us tend to share the 鈥渉ighlight reel鈥 as opposed to the difficult or mundane moments we all experience.

What are the signs of low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem is something that everyone faces from time to time. We all have moments when we experience negative self-talk or wish we could change something about our personality, abilities, or appearance.

Having low self-esteem doesn鈥檛 automatically mean that you have a mental health condition. But if you鈥檙e experiencing any of the following and they aren鈥檛 going away, know that it鈥檚 okay to seek professional help.

  • You say negative things to yourself and others about yourself.
  • You see other people as inherently more talented or attractive than you.
  • You don鈥檛 think you鈥檙e worthy of or love.
  • You frequently use self-deprecating humor.
  • You have a difficult time accepting genuine compliments.
  • You鈥檙e afraid to do anything you aren鈥檛 already good at because you fear failure.
  • You experience constructive criticism as evidence that you can鈥檛 do anything right.
  • You often feel worthless, anxious, lonely, sad, or depressed.
  • You criticize yourself for even the smallest mistakes or shortcomings.
  • You spend more time focusing on your mistakes than your achievements.
  • You blame yourself for things that aren鈥檛 your fault.

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